What's your story? Is it the final draft?
- thespiralcoaching
- Jan 13
- 2 min read
Updated: Mar 23
Every woman carries a story about who she is.
Most of the time, she has never stopped long enough to read it properly.
The women I work with are extraordinary. Generous, capable, and deeply committed to everyone around them. And almost without exception, they are living a version of the same story.
I give everything I have.
And one day, someone will notice.
One day, someone will tell me to stop.
One day someone will look at me and say you have done enough. Now let me take care of you.
That day never comes.
Not because nobody loves her.
But because she has played the role of the strong one so completely and so convincingly that nobody around her even knows she needs it.
She has written herself out of her own story.
Not dramatically. Not all at once. Gradually. Quietly. One yes when she meant no. One need swallowed down.
One moment of choosing everyone else first until choosing herself stopped feeling like an option at all.
And here is the part that breaks my heart every time.
She is waiting for permission that nobody else can give her.
The permission to stop. To rest. To receive. To finally be as generous with herself as she has always been with everyone else.
That permission only ever comes from one place.
From her.
Your story is not fixed. It has never been fixed. But it will keep writing itself the same way until you decide to pick up the pen.
That decision. That moment of realising that nobody is coming to tell you to stop and love yourself too. That is where everything begins to change.
The Receiving Wheel is a free coaching tool that helps you understand exactly where you are closing off and why. It takes ten minutes, and it might name something you have been carrying for years.
Or if you are ready to explore this work more deeply, your first conversation with me is completely free.
Chat soon x
Senem 🌀
Identity Coach for High-Giving Women
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